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Cindy Dennis

Executive Director

Ways to find your Tribe



God created us to need one another and to be in community.

The definition of a tribe is a group of people, or a community with similar

values or interests.


CAN ANY OF YOU GIVE ME AN EXAMPLE OF A TRIBE? I.E., Your Church, Friends, Sorority, or any Organization.

Joining a TRIBE can improve happiness and emotional resilience. However, be careful about selecting your tribe because it can steer you the wrong way.


BUT if you take your time and choose one that is the right fit. The right tribe

can feel like a hot bowl of soup on a cold winter day or a nice warm towel when you come out of the shower.

TIPS FOR ATTRACTING YOUR TRIBE: BE CLEAR ABOUT YOUR INTENTION. WHAT’S YOUR Why

  • · YOU’RE SPECIAL BUT YOU’RE NOT SPECIAL

(Don’t let your ego’s separation story keep you from belonging. We all

hold within us sparks of divinity, and when we tap into the

Oneness, the illusion of separateness dissolves and we’re

left with what we most crave – intimate connection soul-

to-soul.

  • · DITCH JUDGEMENT.

You never know what a TRIBAL MEMBER may look like

  • · BE DISCERNING.

While judgment and criticism erect barriers between you and your tribe, you also won’t MESH with everyone you

meet. This is where discernment comes in.


  • · DON’T BE SHY. TAKE ACTION.

When you meet people who light you up – the ones you hope will become part of your tribe – be

brave enough to invite them to be part of your inner circle.

 


In a 2021 issue of Psychology Today Jessica Schrader wrote an article about 5 Myths and 5 Realties about “FINDING YOUR TRIBE”


MYTH 1: There will be and automatic connection with someone

REALITY: It takes time to get to know someone and it helps to invest in

meeting regularly.

MYTH 2: Your interest should match. You should only include those who share your passion

REALITY: Values, character, and purpose-driven callings are more likely to

matter than common interests alone. Common interest can change but what

lasts are the core character traits and values

MYTH 3: You have similar backgrounds to share. The person fits in the same demographic (background) as you, or shares common age-related concerns.

REALITY: Allow for some pleasant surprises and discoveries as you meet

people who are different in age, socioeconomic group, culture, or race.

MYTH 4: You pick a person for your tribe because he or she mostly agrees with you or completely understands you.

REALITY: Openness and honesty may matter more than agreement.

MYTH 5: Your tribe will last a lifetime. Your tribe should be a circle of lifelong friends and extended family who stand the test of time.

REALITY: If only that was true—and it does happen for some of us, but not all

of us.




REMEMBER THIS: When you make your platform about other people,

They'll make it about you.

Respect begets respect.


Generosity is reciprocated.


Being helpful gets you noticed.


Honor these principles, and you'll never have to worry about marketing or self-promotion again.

You'll be the kind of voice that

people look forward to hearing from.


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